Recently, I've been asking myself why am I going on even though my life goal has been shattered...
Recapitulating... I wished with all my heart to provide a home, warm and full of love, to two children (I'm talking about adoption). This wish had been my reason to give life my all for almost two years now... Well, I was analyzing this wish, this GOAL... And I discovered two important things: No matter what anyone wants to think or not, the odds of me getting into a serious relationship with a man are far higher than those of getting into the same sort of relationship with a woman. It's a fact that while most European countries are beginning to open up to homosexual couples adopting, it's by no means any easier nor secure that I'll ultimately be able to adopt. To that I have to add that I am highly unstable. I have a very SEVERE personality disorder, and even if I were granted the child's custody, I wouldn't be allowed the moment this problem were taken into consideration. Heterosexual couples where one of the members have this problem have been denied custody because of this disorder, so it's easy to think it's going to be even easier to deny it to a homosexual couple... -_- When I noticed these two facts (with the help of my psychiatrist of course) I suddenly lost my drive...
Now I ask myself: If I had been living for myself, and found it to be useless because in the end I'd only be miserable, so I changed to living for someone I valued like hell, and this person was ripped off my life by my own personality disorder, then shifted my attention to those I care for, who also walked out on me, so I ultimately chose to live for a desire, a hope, a wish, I ultimately decided to live for the day I would give two children the warm home many people are missing, regardless of biological relationships. And now I find out this can't be fulfilled, I find out this wish can actually work backwards, causing more harm than good to those I'm trying to help... What am I living for...? I've kept on walking, mainly because of something called Inertia, but this Inertia has recently found some opposition, and I'm trying to find WHAT to live for... And so I ask myself: When the residue of the drive I've had for two years wears out, what will drive me into life? WHAT will be worth living for? I can't live just because, I'd rather die than live a life without meaning, and I can't go on without a goal, 'cuz in the end I won't move anywhere, so, as a last cry for help, a last despairing shout, I ask: WHAT WILL I LIVE FOR FROM NOW ON?
I know there has to be something out there worth living, something worth coping with the suffering in my life, and the suffering I cause to those I care for... I KNOW there's something/someone out there who needs me to walk on, to go on with this burden... But without the hope, without something that reminds me that it's worth it, that it's worth living through all these trials, living in general; something that reminds me that every sunrise is a miracle, something that makes me feel, makes me want to feel alive, something intense... What's there to live for if every one of my goals have been crushed by my own unresolved issues, by all the things I'm now facing... What's the point of facing each of these trials if in the end they will only be controlled, never erased, and I'll have to cope with the aftermath of this fight and the constant strife of keeping these demons under control... What's the point of all my hard work, if everything I worked for is but an unattainable dream?
Keep dreaming... That's what I am doing now, I'm trying to dream something that makes all this worth it... There's no such thing in my life yet, but I go on for the small pleasures: The fact that there IS a sunrise waiting for me at the end of a restless night, the fact that there's people to protect, the fact that there are many who, even if they don't say it now, will miss me if I'm gone, these same group of people who don't really offer me anything but their smiles, but whose precious smiles make up for the lack of comfort, the lack of 'you can do it's, the lack of 'it'll be alright's. Even if these people don't really do much, or even care more than most people care for others, they are there, and they will shed at least a single tear if I'm gone.
I fight these nine demons to safeguard those I care for from the suffering I can cause, but the price is high, and my forces are dimming with every passing second. I can't hold on forever, because I don't have anything to drive me into holding on. While I find what to hold on for, what to fight for, I'll be at the mercy of my demons' tricks... No one understands what it's like to fight yourself for survival, no one understands what it's like to live a life without living, to go on for the sake of it...
Without meaning, life is not worth living. My life has no meaning, but it has something else I must fight for... Those who will suffer if I leave. I can't let my demons win this fight yet, I can't let them have the best of me... I won't let my shadows consume me... But there's nothing to force my eyes onto, nothing to force myself to look at and smile, nothing to fight for. I can hold on, and while this inertia keeps me on the run, I will hold on; but inertia is only an ideal concept, and my life is all but ideal... I can't hold on forever... And unless I find that which I must fight for once more, unless I find something worth living for, worth suffering for, worth fighting for, I'll be doomed to this pointless watching of the sun as it rises slowly, mounting the skies on its fiery chariot while my lover vanishes in its shine... I can only hope for the next moon to bring with it that which I must fight for... I can only hope for the stars to guide my path, tell me that which I can hold on to, illuminate the shadows on my path, revealing the silhouettes of the dreams I must dream, dreams the sun will always incinerate in its rise...
Until I find the soft moonlight that twines desires, dreams and hopes into a cloth I can mold, into a canvas which will hold my blood and tears until they dry, into the chains with which to bind myself to this ocean's bottom where my dreams are always within reach, where I can give my all without fear of the sun vanishing that which I fight for, where I can come out of this shell, let go of my screen and look into the darkness I embraced, look into the lantern-light I used as guide in the dreary landscape that is my soul... Until I find the chains to sink once more into the ocean of peace I embrace, into the ocean of darkness I hide my scars, my burns with, into the ocean of death I draw from to create life at its maximum, I will be buoying on this nothingness, exposed to the searing sun, yearning for the soft moonlight to come back and cover me, yearning for the sweet meanings to make Death not a goal, but the end of a worthy life.
I sink into my own chaos, because I lost the chains that bound me to the shore and in this whirlpool the rising wind, the warming sun, the breaking spell has cast upon my ocean of peace, ocean into which I swum all the time, ocean in which I felt at peace, ocean without life, ocean without waves, ocean inhabited by nightmares, corpses and whipping vines of dread, painful visages of a fear I once let go of... Until I can cast the eternal darkness upon my ocean, until I can bring the moon, full, shining, back to the zenith of this once cloudy and dark sky, until I can raze this blooming land, return it to its barren ashes, until I can eradicate all these wild beasts, bring back the quiet loneliness of death, the beautiful loneliness, the non-existent life, the dead trees, rotting corpses, and looming mountains that now lay flat, no longer a barrier between my soul and the world, but a path between them... Until I can return my soul to its original state, and return to the dreary place I call home, where my dreams and nightmares co-exist, where nothing but the most still silence can be found, where nothing but I walk, not alive, but not dead either, until I can return to my safe haven, my heaven, I'll be stuck with this nightmare. I can swim, I can hold on, but only for so much, and unless I find the binds I need, the tethers which bind this cursed place together, creating the peaceful death I feed upon, giving me full control of my soul, no longer buoying on the ocean, but at its bottom, where I have to be, where I MUST be, where I can exist without fear and sadness, where I can shift into gear without fearing my demons will break free...
To those of you who'll read this (I don't expect many people to actually do...) I'm talking in my own language, I'm talking truthfully, I'm talking, and saying, what I want. I don't want to die, nor do I want to live, I just want my life to have meaning. I'm not asking for endless life, I'm not asking for a swift death, I'm not asking for anything but a reason to go on...
To oneself be true. I live by this rule, and this rule dictates that if I no longer have anything to fight for, I let go of everything I've been doing for whatever I was fighting for. This rule is vital, it's the only thing in my life I can trust, and it's the only reason I'm still alive. I know my depiction of heaven seems off to most, if not all, of you, but my vital rule dictates that I be honest disregarding any rejection I might receive from others. Heaven is to everyone what they make it to be, my heaven is what you know as 'lonely hell'. MY HEAVEN is full of the only thing no one can understand I need: Peace.
It's easy to disregard anything as a moment's impulse when you're a Borderline, but not all Borderlines are the same, and this particular Borderline is not about to let go of his life, his reasons and the only thing that has never failed him: his faith in this Heaven of which he speaks.
A poem now... ^_^
"Reasons of danger cross this bloated heart
In rage, in anger, in despair I see you
To blame on the weak the reasons of a nightmare
To be like you when you leave me in darkness
Is it fair to play shadow when you’re not?
To be among the hungry, swollen with food?
Sit among the hopeless as you hope?
Or perhaps listen to music when everything’s dark?
Is it fair to live, to push forth as you face others?
Is it fair to smile in other’s sadness?
Would it be wrong to answer unasked questions?
In my darkness, I see you, Light
In this sadness, you dare smile
Smile at me, at my fake smile
Smile at the tear my face runs
Wreaking havoc upon the stone soul
Endangering with madness the poor maniac
As you call forth a shade that will lead to nowhere
As you hurry your time having your place
As you stab your healthy heart, facing the dead
In the darkness I can see you
Searing my skin with your anger
Oh sun where did you come from?
Are you here to slap my failures on me again?
Were you sent to torture me?
Please, searing sun, take away your rays
Leave this soul to sink into the darkness it was born for
Leave this wanderer to dread his early demise
Leave this tortured body to its final rest
Oh sun why are you here?
Is it my destiny to face you forever?
Please, oh please, let me fall
The thread cut has been, to let go
The grinder below waits for its last meal
As I fall into darkness, sink into sadness
Go back to my true essence, spread my wings
Oh searing blue sun, let this opal angel sink
The darkness my wounds heals
Shadows my company provide
The silence I must sink into
To heal, to live, to become myself
You have taken my most precious shards, now go
Go and never return, searing light
No more darkness can I produce, doomed I am
No more shadows can I create, my art fallen has
Because you entered, I learnt to smile
Because you supported, I let go of my art
Now that it must come back, I am hurt
Hurt by its negative, come back will it not
Hurt by my innocence, trust the blade did this soul
Soul that now waits for its helper, itself
Soul that lost its shine
Soul that must now covet its art
Soul that must now harvest inspiration
From the Dead Sea, a sea of dirt
From the night glade, prairie of sand
From the fountains of pride, death
From the fountains of knowledge, death
From itself, death…
The Harvester…"
Recapitulating... I wished with all my heart to provide a home, warm and full of love, to two children (I'm talking about adoption). This wish had been my reason to give life my all for almost two years now... Well, I was analyzing this wish, this GOAL... And I discovered two important things: No matter what anyone wants to think or not, the odds of me getting into a serious relationship with a man are far higher than those of getting into the same sort of relationship with a woman. It's a fact that while most European countries are beginning to open up to homosexual couples adopting, it's by no means any easier nor secure that I'll ultimately be able to adopt. To that I have to add that I am highly unstable. I have a very SEVERE personality disorder, and even if I were granted the child's custody, I wouldn't be allowed the moment this problem were taken into consideration. Heterosexual couples where one of the members have this problem have been denied custody because of this disorder, so it's easy to think it's going to be even easier to deny it to a homosexual couple... -_- When I noticed these two facts (with the help of my psychiatrist of course) I suddenly lost my drive...
Now I ask myself: If I had been living for myself, and found it to be useless because in the end I'd only be miserable, so I changed to living for someone I valued like hell, and this person was ripped off my life by my own personality disorder, then shifted my attention to those I care for, who also walked out on me, so I ultimately chose to live for a desire, a hope, a wish, I ultimately decided to live for the day I would give two children the warm home many people are missing, regardless of biological relationships. And now I find out this can't be fulfilled, I find out this wish can actually work backwards, causing more harm than good to those I'm trying to help... What am I living for...? I've kept on walking, mainly because of something called Inertia, but this Inertia has recently found some opposition, and I'm trying to find WHAT to live for... And so I ask myself: When the residue of the drive I've had for two years wears out, what will drive me into life? WHAT will be worth living for? I can't live just because, I'd rather die than live a life without meaning, and I can't go on without a goal, 'cuz in the end I won't move anywhere, so, as a last cry for help, a last despairing shout, I ask: WHAT WILL I LIVE FOR FROM NOW ON?
I know there has to be something out there worth living, something worth coping with the suffering in my life, and the suffering I cause to those I care for... I KNOW there's something/someone out there who needs me to walk on, to go on with this burden... But without the hope, without something that reminds me that it's worth it, that it's worth living through all these trials, living in general; something that reminds me that every sunrise is a miracle, something that makes me feel, makes me want to feel alive, something intense... What's there to live for if every one of my goals have been crushed by my own unresolved issues, by all the things I'm now facing... What's the point of facing each of these trials if in the end they will only be controlled, never erased, and I'll have to cope with the aftermath of this fight and the constant strife of keeping these demons under control... What's the point of all my hard work, if everything I worked for is but an unattainable dream?
Keep dreaming... That's what I am doing now, I'm trying to dream something that makes all this worth it... There's no such thing in my life yet, but I go on for the small pleasures: The fact that there IS a sunrise waiting for me at the end of a restless night, the fact that there's people to protect, the fact that there are many who, even if they don't say it now, will miss me if I'm gone, these same group of people who don't really offer me anything but their smiles, but whose precious smiles make up for the lack of comfort, the lack of 'you can do it's, the lack of 'it'll be alright's. Even if these people don't really do much, or even care more than most people care for others, they are there, and they will shed at least a single tear if I'm gone.
I fight these nine demons to safeguard those I care for from the suffering I can cause, but the price is high, and my forces are dimming with every passing second. I can't hold on forever, because I don't have anything to drive me into holding on. While I find what to hold on for, what to fight for, I'll be at the mercy of my demons' tricks... No one understands what it's like to fight yourself for survival, no one understands what it's like to live a life without living, to go on for the sake of it...
Without meaning, life is not worth living. My life has no meaning, but it has something else I must fight for... Those who will suffer if I leave. I can't let my demons win this fight yet, I can't let them have the best of me... I won't let my shadows consume me... But there's nothing to force my eyes onto, nothing to force myself to look at and smile, nothing to fight for. I can hold on, and while this inertia keeps me on the run, I will hold on; but inertia is only an ideal concept, and my life is all but ideal... I can't hold on forever... And unless I find that which I must fight for once more, unless I find something worth living for, worth suffering for, worth fighting for, I'll be doomed to this pointless watching of the sun as it rises slowly, mounting the skies on its fiery chariot while my lover vanishes in its shine... I can only hope for the next moon to bring with it that which I must fight for... I can only hope for the stars to guide my path, tell me that which I can hold on to, illuminate the shadows on my path, revealing the silhouettes of the dreams I must dream, dreams the sun will always incinerate in its rise...
Until I find the soft moonlight that twines desires, dreams and hopes into a cloth I can mold, into a canvas which will hold my blood and tears until they dry, into the chains with which to bind myself to this ocean's bottom where my dreams are always within reach, where I can give my all without fear of the sun vanishing that which I fight for, where I can come out of this shell, let go of my screen and look into the darkness I embraced, look into the lantern-light I used as guide in the dreary landscape that is my soul... Until I find the chains to sink once more into the ocean of peace I embrace, into the ocean of darkness I hide my scars, my burns with, into the ocean of death I draw from to create life at its maximum, I will be buoying on this nothingness, exposed to the searing sun, yearning for the soft moonlight to come back and cover me, yearning for the sweet meanings to make Death not a goal, but the end of a worthy life.
I sink into my own chaos, because I lost the chains that bound me to the shore and in this whirlpool the rising wind, the warming sun, the breaking spell has cast upon my ocean of peace, ocean into which I swum all the time, ocean in which I felt at peace, ocean without life, ocean without waves, ocean inhabited by nightmares, corpses and whipping vines of dread, painful visages of a fear I once let go of... Until I can cast the eternal darkness upon my ocean, until I can bring the moon, full, shining, back to the zenith of this once cloudy and dark sky, until I can raze this blooming land, return it to its barren ashes, until I can eradicate all these wild beasts, bring back the quiet loneliness of death, the beautiful loneliness, the non-existent life, the dead trees, rotting corpses, and looming mountains that now lay flat, no longer a barrier between my soul and the world, but a path between them... Until I can return my soul to its original state, and return to the dreary place I call home, where my dreams and nightmares co-exist, where nothing but the most still silence can be found, where nothing but I walk, not alive, but not dead either, until I can return to my safe haven, my heaven, I'll be stuck with this nightmare. I can swim, I can hold on, but only for so much, and unless I find the binds I need, the tethers which bind this cursed place together, creating the peaceful death I feed upon, giving me full control of my soul, no longer buoying on the ocean, but at its bottom, where I have to be, where I MUST be, where I can exist without fear and sadness, where I can shift into gear without fearing my demons will break free...
To those of you who'll read this (I don't expect many people to actually do...) I'm talking in my own language, I'm talking truthfully, I'm talking, and saying, what I want. I don't want to die, nor do I want to live, I just want my life to have meaning. I'm not asking for endless life, I'm not asking for a swift death, I'm not asking for anything but a reason to go on...
To oneself be true. I live by this rule, and this rule dictates that if I no longer have anything to fight for, I let go of everything I've been doing for whatever I was fighting for. This rule is vital, it's the only thing in my life I can trust, and it's the only reason I'm still alive. I know my depiction of heaven seems off to most, if not all, of you, but my vital rule dictates that I be honest disregarding any rejection I might receive from others. Heaven is to everyone what they make it to be, my heaven is what you know as 'lonely hell'. MY HEAVEN is full of the only thing no one can understand I need: Peace.
It's easy to disregard anything as a moment's impulse when you're a Borderline, but not all Borderlines are the same, and this particular Borderline is not about to let go of his life, his reasons and the only thing that has never failed him: his faith in this Heaven of which he speaks.
A poem now... ^_^
"Reasons of danger cross this bloated heart
In rage, in anger, in despair I see you
To blame on the weak the reasons of a nightmare
To be like you when you leave me in darkness
Is it fair to play shadow when you’re not?
To be among the hungry, swollen with food?
Sit among the hopeless as you hope?
Or perhaps listen to music when everything’s dark?
Is it fair to live, to push forth as you face others?
Is it fair to smile in other’s sadness?
Would it be wrong to answer unasked questions?
In my darkness, I see you, Light
In this sadness, you dare smile
Smile at me, at my fake smile
Smile at the tear my face runs
Wreaking havoc upon the stone soul
Endangering with madness the poor maniac
As you call forth a shade that will lead to nowhere
As you hurry your time having your place
As you stab your healthy heart, facing the dead
In the darkness I can see you
Searing my skin with your anger
Oh sun where did you come from?
Are you here to slap my failures on me again?
Were you sent to torture me?
Please, searing sun, take away your rays
Leave this soul to sink into the darkness it was born for
Leave this wanderer to dread his early demise
Leave this tortured body to its final rest
Oh sun why are you here?
Is it my destiny to face you forever?
Please, oh please, let me fall
The thread cut has been, to let go
The grinder below waits for its last meal
As I fall into darkness, sink into sadness
Go back to my true essence, spread my wings
Oh searing blue sun, let this opal angel sink
The darkness my wounds heals
Shadows my company provide
The silence I must sink into
To heal, to live, to become myself
You have taken my most precious shards, now go
Go and never return, searing light
No more darkness can I produce, doomed I am
No more shadows can I create, my art fallen has
Because you entered, I learnt to smile
Because you supported, I let go of my art
Now that it must come back, I am hurt
Hurt by its negative, come back will it not
Hurt by my innocence, trust the blade did this soul
Soul that now waits for its helper, itself
Soul that lost its shine
Soul that must now covet its art
Soul that must now harvest inspiration
From the Dead Sea, a sea of dirt
From the night glade, prairie of sand
From the fountains of pride, death
From the fountains of knowledge, death
From itself, death…
The Harvester…"
